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Strong Women Should Never Do These Things For a Man — or Anyone Else

When you’re head over heels for someone, or maybe when you’re feeling insecure, it’s sometimes easy to put someone else’s wants and needs before your own. But if you don’t catch yourself in time, you may lose a part of who you are. Ladies, don’t ever do the following five things for a man — or for anyone.

1. Change your appearance.

If your SO is a decent human being, they won’t ever force you to alter the way you look for their benefit. They should love you for you, and all of you. If your weight, hair, or style really bothers him, he’s clearly not with you for the right reasons. Any physical changes you make should be made because you want them, not for attention or for someone else.

2. Compromise your passions.

Absolutely no one should get in the way of your goals. It is your life, after all, and nobody else will regret leaving any dreams behind more than you. The decision to pass on a job opportunity or put an idea on hold might seem best at the moment, but the future is never guaranteed. Your partner should support your endeavors, and if he’s willing to come along for the ride, that’s just a bonus.

3. Wait for his approval.

A strong woman plays by her rules and doesn’t sit around for instructions. You should be assertive and go forward with your own decisions rather than seek validation from someone else. You’re grown enough to know what’s best for you.

4. Cancel already-set plans.

It’s different to reschedule when something important comes up, but it’s problematic when you drop what you’re doing just to be with him. Your friends and family should not be on the sideline and only brought in when he’s unavailable. You should never be on standby, and if he’s respectful, he won’t mind catching you another time.

5. Let him change who you are.

Don’t change who you are for anyone but yourself. And if you do decide to make any self-adjustments, they should be improvements that will better you. It’s possible that he’d be more interested if you do x, y, and z, but he wouldn’t genuinely like you for you. Never lose sight of who you are.

— Additional reporting by Haley Lynds

by NICOLE YI

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The Best Sex Positions For Some Major G-Spot Orgasms

When it comes to having a G-spot orgasm, a lot depends on the state you’re in as well as the positions you’re doing to really hit that sweet spot. A big part of really maximizing G-spot stimulation is making sure you’re in the mood for better arousal and natural lubrication. That way, you can really experience the pleasure. Take some time to do whatever feels best for you in terms of foreplay — candles, baths, nipple play, and more. Then, head to the main event: actual sex, and make sure you or your partner are giving the attention to the area that’s needed.

Luckily, there are a few positions that increase your chances of G-spot orgasm more than others. Here are the best ones to choose from.

If You’re Flyin’ Solo

If you’re going for G-explosions of the solo variety, you might be your best tool. “Using only your fingers is a fun switch, and it even teaches your body to orgasm more easily from multiple kinds of stimulation,” Alicia Sinclair, certified sex educator and CEO of Le Wand, b-Vibe, and The Cowgirl, told POPSUGAR. “Start by putting a finger or two inside your vagina and curving your finger to meet your front vaginal wall or tapping and swirling a finger pad or two around the G-spot,” she said. Play with different kinds of pressure and stimulation to figure out what feels the best for you, and when you do find it, you’ll know.

“If you want some extra help pinpointing your G-spot, Le Wand has a Curve Attachment Cover, which best matches the curve of your vagina’s front wall where the spot is found. The Ripple Attachment also works great, as the bumps massage your G-spot as you move it in and out,” she said. Start with low vibrations, brush them against your special spot, and then pull back out again to graze your clitoris. As you get more and more aroused, you can pump up the vibrations, she said, increasing the intensity.

Done too soon? Don’t worry. “If you finish too fast, remember the bliss of being a vagina owner — your refractory period is super short, and you can come again and again in completely different ways within minutes,” she said.

Cowgirl

“If you’re ready to give G-spot stimulation a go with a partner, riding is a great — and fairly easy — position to help you reach that spot,” she said. This works regardless of whether your partner has a penis or is wearing a strap-on dildo, because you can take advantage of that upward curve in either their skin or silicone member that targets the G-spot’s location, she said. This is about three inches into your vagina, right where your front wall feels round and puffy. “Try gyrating and moving in different rhythms and angles to find the position that strikes that spot,” she said.

Doggy

“Not only is doggy style a fan favorite, but believe it or not, when your partner enters you from the back (with penis, dildo, or fingers), they’re actually poised to slide right up against your secret spot as they move back and forth,” she said. To make sure you’re getting the most out of this position, try angling your body in different ways to hit your G-spot. “For example, start off on all fours and see how that feels, and then lower your chest all the way to the bed while arching your back and pushing your pelvis toward your partner’s movements,” she said. Let your partner know what feels good and what’s working so they can be sure to be an active partner in the experience and give the most amount of pleasure.

Missionary With Legs in the Air

This position is a twist on missionary that is meant to really angle your partner toward your G-spot. “Rather than getting into standard missionary partner, pick your legs up and put them over your partner’s (the penetrator’s) shoulders. They can situate themselves on their knees,” she said. This angle helps your partner reach your G-spot more easily because of the angle at which your hips are propped, she explained.

Spooning

For a more intimate way to reach the G-spot, get snuggly on your side with your partner around you. “Coming from behind, the giver will be able to reach your G-spot directly (with either a penis or dildo),” she said. Bonus points: spooning will give your partner plenty of access to stimulate your nipples, clitoris, and other fun spots on your body at the same time.

X Marks the Spot

To hit your G-spot, “lay on your back (even better if it’s on a flat surface like a table or counter) and have your partner enter while standing up. Lift your legs and cross your ankles in an X so they lay on opposite shoulders,” she said. “This plays up the natural curvature of an erection or curved dildo, making it super easy to reach the G-spot,” she explained. The “X” will create a tighter fit for a little extra friction, too.

Fusion

“Have the giver sit up with their legs straight out, while you straddle them and lean back on your arms. By leaning back, you’ll be able to easily grind against your partner at the right angle to stimulate the G-spot for the whole ride,” she said. This way, you have some control over the position and can get a sweet G-spot orgasm.

by ISADORA BAUM

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I Tried a Breakup App to Help Me Get Over My Relationship, and This Is What Happened

While a lot of people roll their eyes at cheesy romance, I am not one of them. I absolutely love love, but I’m also very independent, so unless there’s somebody I really like, I enjoy being single quite a lot. After all, having a full-time job, freelancing on the side, and maintaining hobbies and a social life all at the same time is as time-consuming as it gets.

But despite all that, I recently found myself in a breakup, and I was completely gutted. I knew my partner wasn’t right for me, and yet I couldn’t help but feel desperately lonely. I expected to eventually feel better by focusing on my job, seeing my (very supportive) friends, and talking about my heartbreak in therapy when I found something I’d never tried before: breakup apps. Apps like Mend, Break-up Boss, Rx Breakup, and many more were all at my service, offering me comfort during a hard time. There really is an app for everything. But do they actually help?

“Breakups are hard because they’re essentially a mourning period,” Adina Mahalli, certified mental health consultant and relationship expert at Maple Holistics, Mahalli explained that there’s an “ease” to breakup apps as they promise to help you heal quicker, but turning to devices to get a “quick fix” can prevent some people from actually understanding their emotions.

I decided to give Mend a go, mostly because it advertised to have a self-care-based approach. “Our mission at Mend is to make sure no one has to go through heartbreak alone,” Elle Huerta, CEO and founder of Mend, told POPSUGAR. Huerta explained that she built Mend based on what she wished had existed when she was going through a breakup, like a personal trainer for heartbreak.

You register on Mend via a chat with “Elle,” a personalized chat-bot who’s your “guide” through your breakup. Elle asks you questions about your breakup, like when it happened and how you feel about it, and, based on your responses, directs you to a “healing program.” Every day, you check into the app and listen to an audio training, then you journal about your feelings regarding your ex. The trainings are very supportive, and the journal reminds you it’s a safe space and nobody else can read what you write. After the initial training, you’re given the option to either buy one of the three programs Mend offers or keep listening to trainings and journaling until you feel better.

“If the breakup app that you’re using encourages you to journal, meditate, self-care, or anything else that’s going to give you the mental space you need to digest this period, then it could be useful,” Mahalli explained. “But the bottom line is that you have to put the work in to heal — no app can do that for you.”

Mend asks you to log in your self-care activities every day, and the audio trainings give you a lot of encouragement, which I enjoyed. But the fact that the app had a “uniform plan” that was supposedly going to ease my sadness didn’t sit right with me. After all, breakups are unique experiences, and what works for me won’t work for someone else. The fact that the app was trying to sell me programs with hefty price tags (the cheapest one being $60) didn’t help either.

My final thoughts? While it was an interesting experience, and it might help some, it’s not for me. I didn’t find myself feeling a whole lot better after using it, and my heartache from my breakup was still very much present when I closed the app. If anything, it helped me realize that I’m probably going to stick to more traditional coping mechanisms when I go through a breakup, like eating junk food, talking to my friends, and just giving it time.

by DENIZ SAHINTURK

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Here’s How To Wear Eyeliner Everywhere But Your Eye Line

You’ve got the cat eye, the fishtail, the negative space one, and the Cleopatra, which are all original liner looks in their own merit, but can get a bit…boring. (There, we said it!)

Scroll through Instagram and you’ll see influencers to celebrities alike, moving away from the lash line toward new experimental frontiers with eyeliner.

Just last week at Paris Fashion Week, Gigi Hadid and makeup artist Patrick Ta moved the liner from the bottom of the lid to the top, called the floating crease liner look.

Hadid’s white lines were unique in that the perfectly straight white liner sat just above her eyelid crease and paired perfectly with her flawless skin, fluffy brows, and glossy lips. Think Blade Runner for the minimalist.

And Hadid isn’t alone. The trend has taken over Instagram, with everyone from beauty influencers to MUAs embracing the freehand draw.

Y ARIANA YAPTANGCO